It's very difficult to handle this situation. The situation that comes when you realize that you're playing hard to make sure she gets interested in you but still sounding like nothing. Imagine, she has your phone number already but she never texted you first until you initiate. And sometimes, she doesn't reply your texts or she has been replying but not quick as you really expected. Not only replying, but she replies shortly and clear.
These situations have already happened to me. That's why I decided to come out with this topic after doing my research. Meaning, I've been asking different girls why they sometime try not to appreciate our efforts when we're trying to reach them through texting via WhatsApp, Snapchat, Instagram or even normal messager.
There are different reasons that make them to act like that. Some of them sounded familiar, meaningful and others didn't make any sense. Therefore, I decided to share with you about these reasons that I thought they were making sense to me. I tried to reach out more than five girls around 18 to 27 years old because I thought these would give me the answers I was looking for since they're currently hot in love. And the owing were some reasons why some girlfriends don't initiate conversation through phone;
*Avoiding Being Too Forward
This reason was really shocking me. According to their explanations, they think that because you're the first to initiate then they don't need to act like they need things to happen so quickly. And not ego but they need you to keep initiating until things get better enough. And one of them said, if she's going to text you frequently, this will make you get relaxed because you would think things had already got better. All in all, sometimes they will stay silent and waiting for your text to reply. And this reminded me one of my girlfriend when I was teenage. She could stay silent for one week but if I call her she was always blaming me for not checking on her.
*Busy
Sometimes she will not text or call you first because she is busy. Some of them said, when they're tired they don't feel to talk or chat with any. But they feel talking when they're happy, stressful or surprised. I was not really sure with this point but sometimes it makes sense because even me sometimes I don't feel doing anything when I am busy or tired. But the question was that, are they busy for the whole week?
*Don't Have A Good Conversation
I think this reason matters the most. Because I know some men who really bother when talking or even chatting with them. Your girlfriend will not text if you're not offering good conversations. This makes her bored and loosing interest quickly even when you start a conversation she may avoid you. As a boyfriend, you should make sure you're being so creative in conversations. Don't forget there are many men out there visiting her DM. So when she compare you with them, you must be the most. Then imagine if you're not! Today, we are not discussing how to be creative in conversation but my next topics we will. I think most of us fail here.
* She Has Other Guy
I think the problem with the most women is this, she knows she is in a serious relationship but when you come to her she don't admit that but she takes your number and adding you in her friend zone. I realized that, she may not text you first because she is busy chatting with her man and just enjoying your attention. I remember when I was at uni I fell in love with this girl. She was in love with other man but I really know that man was not serious at all. And she knew that. I thought if I will be serious she would love me but it never got worth. But what she did was to add me in her friend zone. I was sending her texts and calling first until I decided to stop. So, I support this would be one of the point.
*Testing Your Patience And If You're Serious With Her
She may understand your words and actions but still not sure you really love her. So, she may decide to test your efforts to her. Some girls don't want to trust a man easily they would play hard to get. And if she sees your efforts on her she may give you her heart. But this should not be the reason to stay on girl's DM because some of them must be in a serious relationship try to measure. Don't forget patience and wasting time are sometimes sounds the same, then learn to differentiate them.
Generally, I think the important thing is to make sure you put your energy, feelings and emotions to someone who truly loves you. Love hearts more than anything in the world. I am not trying to overrate it but don't forget we have many people who have committed suicide after being betrayed in love.
And psychologists support that the best thing you should not destroy is your heart. When your heart is safe, you're safe too.
My advice is that, if you think someone loves you the most and you have the feelings tl him/her please don't waste your time playing hard to get. Some people get disappoint quickly you may loose someone special because of your poor and foolish habit.
Thanks for reading
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